Enjoy Your Child or Do Something About It

What a joy it was to see so many of you at BASS. Thank you for attending my workshops. Thanks also to those who made an effort of saying hello in e-mail or in-person. I understand not everyone speak Cantonese, and appreciate your interest in Mandarin and English!

Like most of you, I have a busy life. Unlike most of you who still have children at home, James and I are empty nesters since 2001. When our son, his wife and two kids lived with us for a couple of months, I was reminded of what young couples are going through day in and day out. It is not easy but I know you are trying your best to balance family, work and church. Don’t forget to take care of yourself instead of stressing yourself out.

Transitions mean changes. Each life stage has its best and worst moments. It is our expectation and assumption of self, others and God that might get us into trouble. While parents love their children their whole life, we may not easily show our love. Okay, it is easy to express love when they are cute and cuddly and obedient, but how about when they are not? Do you sometimes not listen, complain, criticize, and nag them?

Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.” How well do you enjoy your children or teenagers as they grow?

For each child you cannot enjoy, I challenge you to take a piece of paper and fold it into two halves. On half of the page, list all the things you like about that child (could be a teenager or even a grown child) from the day that he/she was born. On the other side, list all the things you don’t like about him/her now. Write and let me know what you’ve discovered through this simple exercise.

Some of you may say, “Enjoy them? You don’t know my child (or teenager)!”

Frustrated? Would you like my help turning your child’s bad behavior around? If you have tried everything and haven’t been able to completely get the respect and great behavior from your child that you deserve and you’d like to turn this situation around once and for all then I’d like to help you do it.

For a limited time, I’m offering a special zero cost "Demons to Angels Coaching Session". During this powerful 30 minute coaching session we’ll work together to:

=> Create a crystal clear vision for the kind of behavior and the kind of relationship that you’d like to have with your child or children

=> Uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your ability to get the respect and good behavior from your child or children that you deserve

=> You'll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to parent your children into the happy, healthy, successful, respectful and fun children that are at their core once and for all

To claim your "Demons to Angels Coaching Session", simply send me an e-mail and answer the following questions:

1. How many children do you have? How old are they?

2. How many of these children are causing problems in your home?

3. Select one child. On a scale of 1 to 10 how important is it to get this child’s behavior turned around once and for all?

4. What are behavior challenges that are causing the most frustrations for you as a parent?

5. What have you tried to turn your child’s behavior around in the past and how did that work out for you?

To claim one of these special zero cost coaching sessions send me an e-mail now and answer the questions above. Be sure to also include your name, phone number, email address and language of choice (i.e. Mandarin, Cantonese or English) so I can get in touch with you to schedule your coaching session right away.

PS: The sooner you send in your answers, the more likely you are to get a session. Send me an e-mail to winnis@parentingabc.com now.

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Winnis Chiang, LMFT and Founder of ParentingABC.com, specializes in helping Mandarin- and Cantonese-speaking high-tech Christian parents to get along with, enjoy, influence and equip their American-born Chinese children.